Friendship

I’ve been in a contemplative mood lately, and I’m not sure why. My sister is getting married in August, so we are coming to the time of dress fittings, final preparations and purchases, and the throwing of showers. It hasn’t been a fun week in the world of throwing a shower; too many cooks in the kitchen, and cooks I don’t know very well. I guess that brought thoughts of my friends and what it’s going to be like when it’s my turn.

Josh and I have been together a year and a couple weeks now, and things have changed with my friends as I knew they would, I have a lot of past experience with it happening to friends. Before Josh, I was at a friend’s houses quite often hanging out, because they were my defining relationship during that period. There was no boyfriend to take up my time, and if there was, it was brief and not as all-consuming as my relationship with Josh has become. Josh lives in Mt. Sterling, I live in Lexington. We see each other on the weekends, Friday night through Sunday night, and talk on the phone each weeknight. So, he makes plans with his friends on weeknights and I try. I’m a lonely, wretched girl on my weeknights, because most of my friends have plans with their husbands, or are working, or just have something else to do. So, I might see my girl friends once a month, which is quite a lot less than it was before, but at least it’s something. I have one friend that I’ve had since high school, and though months pass by before we get together, we can pick up right where we left off, and still feel somewhat connected to each other’s lives. Others have drifted in and out of my life, and others have remained a constant presence, not far off my mind, but our paths don’t cross as often as I’d like.

One relationship has blossomed in this time, and I am grateful for it. When my other friends seemed to fade she showed up, on the arm of my former roommate and good friend. The four of us try to get together at least monthly if not more. The guys talk about guy stuff, we talk about girl stuff, and Josh and I have a great time going out with a couple. She has become one of my closest friends when my closest friends don’t seem so close anymore. I’m not sure why we get together some of my friends as couples and some I only see by themselves. All of my old friends have a husband, and I thought that’s what people did once they coupled up, got together with other couples. So, why aren’t I seeing them more, not less? We don’t have to just have a girl’s night and leave the husbands out in the cold anymore, we can all get together and have a nice time. I guess its just the nature of the beast, things are going great in one area of your life, so the others get moved around until they’re just not recognizable anymore. I hate it, but I’ve been the shoe on that foot many times before, and it just happens no matter what you do. We all change and grow and shuffle things around; its life, I should just accept it and move on, and quit my whining for the day. Adieu.

Boomers

I really like today's Doonesbury. The boomers are quite the generation. What happened to the left-field hippies who wanted to stop war and make the world a better place? I'm not seeing any resemblance of their youth myself nowdays.

They've always been catered to, and want to keep it that way even though they're mostly beyond the usual target market of 18-49. We see ads for all kinds of anti-aging products (including Viagra, Cialis, etc.) on tv now, but 20 years ago, was there this kind of marketing to the older generation? I don't remember it as much. I don't remember my grandma falling for the latest anti-aging fad; she just aged, like every generation before her. I guess when you've been the center of attetion your entire life you just don't want to let it go. But, do remember there are a couple generations behind you now who are going to inherit this place, and we'd like to see y'all treat it like you said you would back when you were our age.

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